Dear HR Executive,
Who struggles more with work-life balance: men or women?
Conventional wisdom says women face more stress juggling their roles at work and at home.
But the Families & Work Institute found that poor Pops is suffering way more from clashes between his work and life balance. Three decades ago, just about one third of men reported significant conflict between home and the office. Today, though, 45% of men surveyed by the Institute say they experience such conflict.
By contrast, 39% of women now report serious problems with work and life balance, also up from one third 30 years ago. In other words, as women have increasingly moved into the workplace and gender roles at home have shifted, men are feeling more stress than women over work-life balance.
That may be because working fathers are spending more time with their families – an average of 3 hours a day now, compared with 2 hours in 1977. Working women’s time with the family stayed static at 3.8 hours.
Equal treatment
What does all this mean for HR?
There’s a legal angle, and there’s a management angle, to work-life balance.
Legally, the FMLA mandates equal treatment for both parents when it comes to your responsibility to provide leave for the birth of a child, or for someone whose family member needs care for a serious health condition. You can’t grant such leave for one gender and not the other.
Also, remember that plaintiffs’ lawyers have started to use the concept of family responsibilities discrimination in lawsuits against employers. So, you’d likely be in trouble if you, say, refused a promotion to a man because he plays a big role in taking care of his kids and you think he won’t concentrate on his new duties.
What they expect
From a management standpoint, it’s important to remember that the sharp younger employees who are key to your company’s future increasingly expect their employers to understand their need for work-and-life balance. They won’t come to work for you, or stay, if they think you don’t get it.
Proof of the point: The Families & Work Institute noted that among Millennials – employees who came of age after the year 2000 – working fathers devote an especially large amount of time to their families. These younger guys spend 4.3 hours per workday with the wife and/or kids, compared to just 2.4 hours for men their age in 1977.
That’s a big shift in attitudes about work and life balance, and implies a big shift in employee expectations, too.
For more on the Institute’s study, go here: http://familiesandwork.org/site/newsroom/releases/timeschanging-release.html
What you can do help Dads’ work and life balance
Your organization may already be quite Dad-friendly. But if you think you might need to do more to help working fathers, here are a couple of ideas:
- Check your culture. For example, are new fathers afraid to ask for paternity leave because they think it would hurt their careers? You may have some work to do with more traditionally minded managers who still consider that a man’s place is in the office.
- Consider flex-time or telecommuting options for new/young fathers, or those whose wives have extremely time-consuming jobs. But remember, getting away from the family may also provide these guys with a break from home stress, so make sure any flexible schedule does include significant office time.
- Weigh the pros and cons of offering a few days of paid paternity leave. Not every employer will want to afford this. But if you do offer paid maternity leave, you might want to even up the scales by doing something for the guys.
Father’s Day is coming up pretty soon – it’s June 21 this year. Maybe the fathers in your workplace would appreciate something other than a loud tie or a coffee mug inscribed “World’s Best Dad.”
Dave Clemens
Editor-in-Chief
The HR Café Newsletter (http://www.hrcafe.net)